Elders Gatherings

Elders meet in groups that have names such as “the elders group” or “the moot”, or whatever they choose for themselves. I have chosen to refer to them as Circles and Councils as described below. I have a vision of a time when there will be regular Elders meetings in every town and village, wherever there are older people who want to get together to talk about community matters and developments in society that concern or inspire them. Each one will be independent and autonomous, but they may link together in some way if they so wish.

The Elders’ Circle

An elders circle is a group of two or more elders at any stage of their lives who choose to meet with each other. They share interests in eldership and want to find ways to take their eldership out into the world

The circle is a private space where they meet away from normal life. It is a place to talk with peers and develop an understanding of the significance of this stage of life. We become more comfortable being older people and find ways to re-integrate with the local community. Individually and as a group we learn how to sit in the elder’s place in the world and make sure our voices are heard.

This is the very heart of eldership, its energy centre and growing front. It is where we work to acknowledge and develop our own sense of being mature and conscious people. By sitting with others on the same path we grow and evolve into our greater selves. We also develop ideas and translate them into words and concrete action.

Each elders circle or group is unique. How could it be anything else? It is made up of mature and unique individuals who make their own choices and live their own truths. Their meetings are always different: they may be quiet, noisy, orderly, chaotic, creative, large or small and they may last for a few minutes or for several days.

Elders are all equals. There is no hierarchy, no-one claims to be better or more advanced than anyone else. There are obviously differences of experiences, ideas and attitudes, but these are all acceptable.

The strength of the circle lies in the integrity of its members.

Joining an elders’ circle

If you are approaching or past sixty years this could be an important step for you to take. It is an opportunity for you to find new ways to live a meaningful and significant life as a member of the community.

It is a chance to take time out from the usual concerns and to focus on growth and learning. You will find support and encouragement from others who are in the same process.

You will probably hear others talking about their experiences of eldership and of the problems and challenges they face. If these strike a resonance in you then you may want to join in and add your piece.

Finding an elders circle may not be easy as they are relatively new in this country. You may have to ask around, look for notices in places such as community centres and health food shops, and look in local magazines. If you cannot find one then you may be the person who has to start one!

Starting an elders’ circle

Someone needs to take the initiative and decide to form an elders circle. You may simply look among your friends and acquaintances for people who seem to be on the elders path and then invite them to take part. You may go further and put an advertisement in a local magazine. ( If you do this you are welcome to refer to this website.)

If at least one of the group has trained as a facilitator or had experience of being in a personal development group such as a men’s or women's group then they can take responsibility at first for holding the group’s process. If no one is sure enough of themselves then consider a training in facilitating groups.

 

Elders’ Council

The elders' council is the public face of eldership. It offers a forum for elders to step into their power and to take their knowledge and wisdom out into the world. The Council may offer a variety of activities and projects, e.g.